Catching You Up

It's so crazy at work this time of the year (and it's been super busy since December) That I rarely have time to think deep thoughts and commit them to paper.
Just know that I'm always here for you guys and working on a peaceful story to " catch you up."
Peace and Love to You Always,
Paul

The Price We Pay

One of the hardest things to teach or share with “the boys” is that there is a price to pay for every single thing you do. There’s a “ripple effect” to each action you take and the simplest thing could ruin someone else’s life and consequently yours. I Rest My Case.
Tread Lightly.
Love Genuinely.
Never Take Back What You Give.

Peace and Love to You Always

The Shallow Truth ( how a journey back to my youth destroyed a myth)

I’ve been very busy over the last several years since I lost Carroll. The Accidental Father actually became a kid himself again to help walk his charges through this period of their life. 

Here is what I’ve learned. Your milenials are living in the most shallow, deceptive and godless world you can dream up x 10. It’s so shallow and fake that I fear the suicide rate will really jump after they hit 30.

It certainly has made me look at my youth and know we were better off then and now. The myth of youth is really a stage of life and only building block. I think we may have glorified it too much and set our youth up for failure.

 May we always be true to ourselves now and speak truth to them.

Peace and Love to You Always,

Paul

What have I learned?

Sometimes I think nothing. Maybe a lot? First: Happy Birthday Gale White! While You’re in Heaven now with your beloved Jesus, Your Spirit of Truth, Love, Healing and Rebellion live on.

Good Saturday morning to you. If you’re raising a “millennial” I have some advice for you if they are of a legal age. It’s based on what I’ve learned. Let Them Go! 

Regardless of your “generation” you are absolutely no match for them. The World has completely taken you out of the good/bad parent or mentor role and its increasingly clear to me that they, (milenials) don’t really give a damn what you think anyway. It’s only what the world presents to them that matters. It’s All About Them. 

It was all about “Us” too in previous generations of youth but we knew some basic truths about personal integrity and what effect our actions could have on others. I know, I know. You did start your milenials out that way and they have it in them somewhere. What Happened? A world of BS, lies, virtual reality, living like kings in the hood and isolationist behavior in our own neighborhoods grew on them and like weeds, choked out all the flowers you planted. Whatever your race, color or creed, You Are Dealing With It.

Besides letting them go, I have one more piece of advice. “Get ready to raise their kids.” Don’t screw it up either grandma or grandpa. You better be the toughest sucka you’ve ever been with those kids and remember that you’re fighting a world that totally disrespects everything you care about.

Peace and Love to You Always,

Paul

There is no long term happiness.

There is only pleasure. 

It’s like eating a bowl of sugar and immediately feeling great but then getting dumped from it. Back to the bottom nutritionally and emotionally. (Pleasure for a short time)

If however you eat a full meal of the things you like it’s filling and emotionally fulfilling. You have a balanced amount of protein, starch, fat, etc. it’s what you like and that’s fulfilling. It takes longer to metabolize so the fulfillment is longer. (Long Term Happiness) 

I have concluded that on my present diet, I’ll never have long term happiness.

Amazing What Can Happen To Us and What We Can Learn In One Day

I’ve been eating sugar.

Back To The Bottom Of The Ladder.

What have you been eating?

A Quarter

Well, the end of the first “quarter” of 2015 has passed. Promised you I’d write less. That young man in the picture above is really doing well right now and I’m grateful on all levels. Life is so short and it’s important to “Love” each other as much as we can even when we’re not feeling it. Things happen but life and love continue in our family units just like things continue in the world. (It doesn’t stop when we do. The world keeps spinning.)

I’ll let you know that I’ll be journaling here going forward and try to do it daily. It should be an interesting snapshot of life in the “frat house.” If you have thoughts or comments, please do leave them and be positive and constructive with the. Here goes kids. 

Monday, April 6 2015

This day really started at 3:31 am when I rolled out to take an Uber customer to DFW airport for a 5:15 am departure. I was tired already but the money was good and the customer was pleasant and low maintainence. Came home to a still sleeping house except for Bella, ate a cookie with here and slept til 10:42 am. The boys were already up and I had to make coffee and wake up fast. JP brought me a sausage mac muffin and then it was load the laundry and drive to the store for some fireball to assist with an afternoon social the boys had. Zac went with me and all was pleasant. Guests appeared. Dani, Andrew and a couple more. We made a return trip so that Zac could continue the quest to conquer Uncz enviable (and dubious) drinking records. Things went well until I was leaving for that place of my conversion, All Saints Catholic Church. A party guest was littering in my driveway and I forcefully corrected his behavior. I drove off, retrieved food for the boys and dropped it back off. Zachary attempted to inform me that my actions were unnecessary and over the top. I tried to explain and it didn’t go well. I left he and JP to hash it out and left. Wasn’t long before I had to return due to Zac’s departure on foot. He had called friends to get him and because all this was in the heat of the moment, I felt the need to correct all of our immediate issues. I was met in front by a party guest ride who was waiting out front. I dispatched him, and went inside briefly. When I came out a “Zac” peer taxi was cruising in front looking around for the “missing link.” Unfortunately when he saw me he accelerated away at a noticeable rate so I jumped in the car and attempted to stop him for a chat at the end of the street. He foolishly pulled into traffic blindly and mercifully was not hit. I followed and caught him at the light where he was trapped. He finally lowered his window and after asking if he was looking for Zac there was a delay but he finally said yes. I informed him of the danger he was in and proceeded to find Zac sitting on the Cable terminal down the street. He got in the car and after a ride talking the whole way, he stated his desire to exit the vehicle. I drove on and after an emotional meeting of the minds, I returned him to the bar to meet the “peer taxi” driver. I retrieved Zac after 1 drink and we are all back at the “Ponderosa” with a new attitude about anger, it’s damage and the true caring and respect we actually have for each other. A couple of chicken taco roll ups and I’m in bed. The boys are in the garage. Music, cigs and corona. It’s another day in the life of the Accidental Father yet this one was an emotional game changer for the good of us all. Night Zac and JP. Life would be pretty useless without You.  Gunnar dipped a few weeks ago to Nacona, Austin and now Colorado Springs. Just a rerun of a previous escapade. He’s out of the daily loop right now. Hope all is well there as he says it is.

Peace to You Guys is my prayer for tonight.

Merry Christmas Uncz

Well, it’s that time of the year again where the parties are in full swing for the boys,       (and many others) plus all the assorted holiday emotions that can make memories.           It’s been a “full ride” this year and a lot of water has passed under the bridge. Funny how the worldly things can lift or kill your spirit and bring you to the crossroads right at Christmas. I’ll take the “right fork” personally and bid the boys Merry Christmas, Happy New Year and Peace to You Allways. You’re all here this time so it’s been more rewarding in total.
God took time to put us together. We should use it wisely.
Just know Zac that true love conquers all, forever.                                                            (It’s a shallow world Son, Rise Above It.)
Love and Determination win the race Jeremy no matter what.                          (You’re a Marathon Man already, with a Heart)
Compassion and Love for Your Brothers and Sisters sets You Apart Gunnar.     (You’ve made so much progress this year and You love us even when we “ride” You. I’m so blessed to have You)

Bless You All for Who You Are and What You Are to Me. I would be a hollow shell without you guys.
Paul

Accidents, Miracles and the World Beyond

Good Morning. I just wanted to acknowledge the miracle in my life on its second anniversary. A lot could be said about all this however simplicity is even better. Zachary Gibson is alive and well here at home where he belongs. I’m humbled everyday that God lets me have You in my life knowing full well that he must have a truly special mission for You.
Peace and Love to You Forever and Ever.

(Two years ago right after midnight on November 11th, Zachary was almost killed in an accident with his drunken friend as the driver. His recovery continues and his friend continues to evade proper justice by manipulating the DA’s office and the courts)

Transitions

This is a posting that’s long overdue as most of mine are. Work, Schedules, etc. are always eating up time that’s precious and growing shorter every year. Zac is back with me and it’s been a refreshing change from our past “lives” under the same roof. He’s grown not only in years and maturity but in wisdom. Sometimes trauma in our life gives priceless gifts. He grown so much that I’m playing catch up and being forced to throw away past issues and work from a clean tablet. It’s refreshing and yet very difficult. Upon reflection, the transition from “father” to “equal” with another adult is the most difficult I’ve ever faced as I try to remain a wiser mentor. The journey never ends but we’re called to be less closed minded and less controlling as our destination comes into view. I’ll hope that you can transition your life to enjoy the growth your children have gained while letting them be the people they really are. It’s hard to let go of the reins yet again and let the Thorobreds you’ve trained run the race. Hang on and enjoy the ride folks or you’ll be in the barn forever.m

Peace and Love to You Always,
Paul

Nothing was Accidental

While I’m The Accidental Father on here, I can assure You that nothing was accidental about how we met.
I’m here obviously for a reason and You (multiples) passed through my life.
I’ve listened as your father might. I’ve counseled you at times. I’ve also had the proverbial “kitchen table conversation” with a couple of you as well.
Just know none of this was an accident. I’ve paid attention to what you guys do so that I can amend my life and hopefully you’ve paid attention to what I do or don’t do so that you can have a better life.
Have a great summer wherever You may be and remember,
We Are Entitled to Nothing in This Life. We Earn Everything.
No Respect For Your Fellow Man/Woman Earns You No Respect. No Money Either.
Paul